Less of the “I, me and mine”, More of the “they, them, and their”

by perpetualflaneur


Nowadays, we are so enclosed in our little worlds created by the ‘holy’ trinity of “I, me, and mine” (worsened by its acolytes of gadgets) that we refuse to listen, unintentionally debilitating our comprehension.

Take for example when out for dinner. Do you find yourself constantly repeating what you said at least 2-3 times just because the person whom you are supposed to be having a conversation and dinner with is glued to his phone? You know the other person hears it, but the comprehension comes a little too late, as he’s preoccupied with whatever is on his phone. It’s not just about manners, but also about being selfless and being in the moment.

Another is when you are attending events. You are so busy with the selfies or the social media postings/check-ins saying that you’re there and clearly enjoying the view, that you just forget to absorb it and just be there. Yes, you took photos of where you are, but do you, for a second, remember the feeling you had being there with your friends, the other attendees, the entire event without being reminded by the photo?

How many of us are guilty of these? I know I am at times. There’s no denying really. But just because we know almost everyone is guilty of it (It’s a fact that phones or its future counterparts, whatever it may be, are going to stay–innovation is a key human drive!) doesn’t mean we can’t change the way we handle it.

How about if we minimize the self-centeredness and start participating and listening for a change, letting others take the lead as they share their stories and invite us to their own.

I implore you; next time you’re out, try listening and minimizing the trinity of the “I, me, and mine” for a bit. It’ll not only make a difference to you but also to the people you’re with. Start by asking, “what’s your story?” Baby steps, dear reader. Baby steps.

There’s always a story behind everything and every thing. A force as powerful and as persistent as change, it’s always waiting to be asked and begging to be told.